If you have erectile dysfunction, it can be tempting to deal with it alone and shut your partner out. However, although you may be experiencing feelings of resentment and embarrassment, talking to your partner is the most helpful choice you could make.
According to the International Journal of Impotence Research, women can also experience sexual dysfunction when coupled with a partner who has ED. That means a transparent conversation with your partner could benefit both of you as you attempt to navigate these new challenges. Having tough conversations about erectile dysfunction could bring the two of you closer together than ever before. Here are three ways to talk to your partner about ED.
Be Honest and Keep Communication Open
First, take some time to plan out what you want to say to your partner and how you would like to say it. Decide on a good time to bring up the conversation, whether over dinner or on an evening walk. If you’re having a hard time bringing up your condition, you could break the ice by telling your partner you’re embarrassed. Remember, honesty is the most important part of this conversation. It will allow you and your partner to express your emotions as comfortably as possible.
Explain your medical condition clearly and honestly. If you are unsure of how to talk about ED, reach out to your doctor. They can provide you with all the information you need. Don’t be afraid to share the details with your partner. Your partner cannot help you—and you cannot help them—if you are unwilling to express what you need. Erectile dysfunction is a medical condition, not something to be ashamed of.
Explore Other Techniques for Intimacy
It’s also important to remember that sex isn’t the only way to be intimate with your partner. There are plenty of ways you can be close to each other and maintain that closeness. Here are some ideas:
- Start a new hobby together
- Focus on kissing
- Experiment with what feels good
- Engage in massage techniques
- Dance with each other
Don’t put too much pressure on yourself as you try new things. Have fun and focus on what feels right.
Discuss Treatment Options
Talking to your partner about ED can help you decide how you want to move forward with treatment. Focusing on solutions rather than on the issue at hand can help you regain power in the situation. Plus, involving your partner in your decision will ultimately bring you closer together and foster that intimacy you both desire.
Long-term ED treatment is more likely to be successful when both individuals in the relationship are involved, so do the work together. Going to doctor visits together will help you keep the conversation going. You can both ask the doctor any questions you may have, and your partner may have some insights into your erectile dysfunction that you haven’t noticed. Both of you will become more prepared to support each other in the most productive ways possible.
Erectile dysfunction is not the beginning of the end of your relationship or sex life. There are various treatment options available that can leave you satisfied with the new direction of your sex life. Don’t confront this medical condition alone. With open conversation, it is possible for you and your partner to come out of the situation feeling closer and happier than before.